I stumbled across this article and thought it was worth the quick read. It sounds pretty good to me, but I'm not quite a Newlywed just yet. So what's the word on the street? What's the best advice ya'll can give?
Fight Fair. It is okay to argue with one another as long as you fight fair. Pick your battles. What you argued about today may seem so very important but chances are you won't remember it a few years from now.
Date One Another. Although staying home and watching a movie or enjoying some quiet time together is important, getting out of the house and having a date with one another is one of the keys to having a successful marriage.
Talk to One Another. Your spouse is not a mind reader. Don't jump to conclusions. Share what you want and what you don't want and what you like and what you don't like. Share your thoughts and feelings when the two of you have decisions to make.
Have Fun and Enjoy One Another. This seems like a given, but newlyweds often put work and making money on a higher priority than having fun. Don't wait to have fun. You can have fun without spending a lot of money.
Your Jobs Can Hurt Your Marriage. Yes, being successful in your careeers and earning enough money to keep the roof over your heads is important. However, work is not the most important thing in life. Don't let your jobs interfere with your marriage.
Let Go of Past Hurts. You will make mistakes. Your spouse will make mistakes. You will both say things you don't really mean. You both need to forgive and to be forgiven.
Draw the Line With Your In-Laws. Set boundaries with your in-laws right away. If you don't, problems with your respective families will continue throughout your marriage.
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NEVER EVER go to bed upset or angry with eachother....
pretty good advice; I would agree mostly with the talk to each other; you'd like to think you each know each other well enough to always know what's wrong, what you're thinking, what you want, but sometimes the other person just innocently doesn't know and it's ok to just come out and say; this is what I want; this is how I feel.
I've been meaning to write this to you on here forever!!
Get away together. Jason and I got this great advice when we first got married. Hence, the Tyson's Corner trip you all have come to know and love. We went away every three months. Sometimes to Tysons, but also to Bed and Breakfasts, random out of the way places...just away from dishes and laundry and everyday life.
We loved every minute. And, it was worth every penny (which were much harder to come by then.)
It kept the spark between us fresh and both of us agree that it helped build the foundation of crazy love we have today.
So, my advice: Get away together!
Well I got a year on you, so I don't know how well my advice will be. But I do say this to the both of you. Never try to change each other, cause neither will be happy with the result.
Make time for each other, and friends together, and seperate.
Also find other happy couples to hang out with.
Communicate to each other your goals and priorites in life. (you will find them to be different) If you know what they are, than you will understand why something are more important to him, than to you.
Make sure you both always on the same page for desicions. Don't go doing something if you think the other might not be thrilled.
Share everything equally. And make sure to have lots of pillows than you think a normal person should have.
And read the book "The Five Love Languages."
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